Thursday, January 31, 2013

Ellis family January spotlights

SAM--8 on Jan 12

 
Yes, Sam is the man.  I can't believe what a cool guy he is.  He loved having so many family members there to support him at his baptism.  Even though he got sick and wasn't able to taste the amazing pizza birthday cakes his Aunt Vanessa made, he said the great thing about that day really was getting baptized.  Natalie said that's something she loves most about him--he really thinks about the details of the gospel. 

Right now, Sam is in his second season of basketball since moving to Kansas and has decided it is his favorite sport so far.  His reasoning is simple:  "You don't get as sweaty because you play in an air conditioned place.  In soccer, you're always sweaty."  I'm with you on that one, Sam.  Other extracurricular activities include piano lessons and Cub Scouts. 

Probably my favorite things to learn about Sam were his qualities as a creator.  Any time there is anything lying around, he'll just make something with it.  One example Natalie shared was a house that he made out of clementine peels after they ate them for a snack, complete with a roof and door!  For her birthday, he made her a pencil holder.  Another project was completed on the sly with Ethan as his accomplice.  They stayed up late one night, snuck out Natalie's sewing box and made a table runner for Natalie's bedside table!!  And the one that totally blew me away:  Mia's Ariel doll was understandably a little underdressed for Strength of Youth standards and so Sam decided to make her a modest dress.  He sewed on a button, made arm holes, the whole nine yards.  As someone who is married to a man like this, I can appreciate the gift that you have, Sam.  Keep it up!!!  Creating is one of the most effective ways to find joy in this life :). 

Thanks for all the joy you bring to our family!  We love you, Sam!!!
 
 
PAPA STAN--66 on Jan 22
 







 
 
Happy 66 to our perfectly wonderful patriarch!  Here is a peek into his life as a husband, father, grandfather, and member of the Seventy. 

With all nine 'psychos' raised and out the door, I wondered what he loves most about being an empty-nester.  "Being an empty-nester!" was his immediate response.  He remarked how fun it is just being with Mom, with the freedom to go for a walk, get a sandwich, go grocery shopping or swimming (Mom and Dad's current daily exercise) without having to worry about anyone else.  In a word:  "relaxing."  "It's like being newlyweds and doing everything fun together."  He and Mom also enjoy the freedom to be able to attend baptisms, blessings and other quick trips to each of our families' activities now that they are not juggling a "family" schedule at home. 

Dad's favorite aspects of his calling:  "It's wonderful to be associated with the brethren.  It's wonderful to be guided by the Spirit so often--at Stake Conferences.. in everything we have to do we have to be guided by the Spirit.  It's nice to be able to have an impact.  Someone will say, 'You really helped me...'"

I asked if there were any parts he didn't like or any parts that were especially challenging.  The first one is the uncertainty of not knowing where they will be, how long they will be there, etc.  "Uncertainty is contrary to my preferred lifestyle" of having everything planned and in order.  He cited the fact that he had the end of his mission planned before it even started :).  The other part that he mentioned is that, in many of the situations he is faced with, "you really just don't know what to do and until the revelation and answers come, it's scary, challenging, frustrating or whatever else you want to call it....  BUT IT ALWAYS COMES.  It's like what President Monson says.  He says he doesn't worry because it's the Lord's work.  He lets the Lord worry about it."

In his spare time, you can usually find Dad reading a book or listening to one on CD.  Currently, he is enjoying The Guardian, by Gerald Lund, (on CD) and The Savior in Kirtland, by Karl Anderson.   The first was a birthday present and his interest in the second was sparked by a "really interesting" assignment he had in Kirtland, Ohio.  One morning, before doing some "rescuing" with the stake president, they went to see some of the historical sites now owned by the RLDS Church.  They took with them one Karl Anderson, resident expert on Church history in Kirtland.  As they went through the visit of the Kirtland temple, the RLDS guides would share their information and then turn the time over to Brother Anderson for his insights and perspective.  Over the years, he had forged a lot of friendships with everyone in Kirtland--RLDS and LDS alike.  Dad found it so interesting that he discovered both books written by this Church scholar:  Joseph's Kirtland and his current read, The Savior in Kirtland,  which discusses all the manifestations, revelations and teachings of Christ in Kirtland. This "Christology of Kirtland" was actually 'commissioned' by Neal A. Maxwell before his death.  Inspired by the book, Dad said he looked through the Doctrine and Covenants and found that the majority of sections were actually received there in Kirtland.  It was an "incredibly formative time in Church history.  You figure that Joseph Smith arrived there in January of 1831 and the Church was only organized a few months before that." 

But as much as Dad loves reading, when he has free time, the top of Dad's favorite-things-to-do list is being with us! :)  He talked about how much he enjoyed Christmas with everyone, his birthday lunch on Monday, Sam and Caitie's baptisms, all the baby blessings and other visits.  When I asked what else he would want us all to know, he said, "I want them to know that they are the love of my life!  I find great joy in my family." He told me about a man he was talking with who didn't want to marry or go through the hassle of children.  "It's true, children are a lot of work.  But they become your best friends.  It's so fun to be with my children now!  They're so great to talk to, and to do things with."  He stressed to me, though, how important it is to enjoy each season in its time.  We (the nine psychos ;) won't be able to enjoy where he and Mom are now if we don't put in the effort where we are now. 
 
   How thankful I am for you, Dad!  Your example and counsel have blessed me all my life--from "sing as you work and your work will be play" to "if it's worth doing, it's worth doing well", "it's great to be in business with the Lord" and "you're just as good as anyone else, but no better" and the list goes on.  Thank you for being such a steady and constant force for good wherever you are.  We love you, Papa Stan!  Parabens! :)

NATALIE--Jan 24
Oh, Natalie, where do we start? Maybe with this picture of you and I having too much fun at someone else's expense. 

With four children, she's not able to spend as much time packing and loading trailers as she would like.  Now, instead, Natalie enjoys listening to a good book.  Her latest reads include The Entitlement Trap, the scriptures, the Ensign, and The Help.  Her current musical project is really trying to learn to play the guitar.  On her own, she is memorizing chords and using them to make wonderful memories with her kids.  She'll take the guitar up to sing them to sleep or lay out on the grass with them on warm days.  That is still one of her favorite memories from their time in Dallas.  Enjoying their backyard one day, Ethan asked, "Can you go get that guitar thing and sing?"  Often she will form the chord and Ethan will do the strumming.  Tackling one Primary song a month, she's on her way! 

Their amazing kitchen renovation is done (see her blog) and so I asked what projects were next on the list.  She wants to let Matt recover for a little while, so they'll do some low-key stuff like painting bedrooms and planting sunflowers (their new state flower) in their back yard. 

At church, she is the first counselor in the Relief Society.  Since all of her time in their Dallas ward was spent in Primary callings, this has been a huge gear shift for Natalie.  She realizes how much she really loved serving with children.  But this has been a great way to get to know people in a new ward and she has really come to understand President Uchtdorf's "lift where you stand" concept.  It doesn't matter where you serve or what you're doing, as long as you do your part.

Life in Kansas is everything she prayed it would be.  She appreciates the simplicity of life there.  Dallas was so busy, so much traffic, so much intensity.  She says, "This chapter of my life is so fun!  To have Mia and Kate home during the day, the boys growing, learning and progressing, and Matt home every night.  He is just awesome and it's so fun to be with him more.  Our family happiness is so complete now."  Fulfilling.  That is the word she used again and again as we talked. 

I know we all are so happy for your happiness, Nat.  You deserve every wonderful, fun and fulfilling moment.  Happy 25th! ;)
 

Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Christmas music...

is my favorite way to REJOICE at His birth.  Here is a new song written by our amazing friend, Rob Gardner that I love! 

Lyrics:
There's a song in the air! There's a star in the sky!
There's a mother's soft prayer and a baby's low cry!
And the star rains its fire while the beautiful sing,
For the manger of Bethlehem cradles a King!
There's a tumult of joy o'er the wonderful birth,
For the virgin's sweet boy is the Lord of the earth.
And the star rains its fire while the beautiful sing,
For the manger of Bethlehem cradles a King!
And we look to the star while the beautiful sing
To the manger of Bethlehem.
We rejoice in the light, and we echo the song
Coming down through the night from the heavenly throng.
And the star rains its fire while the beautiful sing,
For the manger of Bethlehem cradles a King!

Watching my girls holding hands and hearing their carols as we oohed and ahhed over the lights at Temple Square made my heart sing with pure joy. This one is Petit Papa Noel :)

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

The power of kindness

Elle, Eden and I are sitting in the kitchen eatin lunch. Elle asked me if Heavenly Father has power (she saw a picture if Christ healing someone "and that was his power. So I started thinking about power." )

"Yes, he does." I answered.

"Why don't we have power?"she asked.

"We do." I was about to go on, but she beat me to it.

"You mean kindness?" YES!!!!

George Albert Smith said, "Live in such a way, in love and kindness, that peace and prayer and thanksgiving will be in your homes together. Do not let your homes just be a place to hang your hats at night and get your meals and then run off some place else but let your homes be the abiding place of the Spirit of the Lord.

I pray that we may be filled with that spirit that comes from [the Lord], and that is a spirit of love, of kindness and helpfulness and of patience and forbearance. Then, if we keep that spirit with us in our homes, our boys and girls will grow up to be what we would like them to be....

Kindness is the power that God has given us to unlock hard hearts and subdue stubborn souls and bring them to an understanding of His purposes....Let us not complain...because they do not do what we want them to do. Rather let us love them into doing the things that our Heavenly Father would have them do. We can do that, and we cannot win their confidence or their love in any other way."

It's amazing to me to watch this power at work in our home. My kids teach me so much about it every day--including each other with their friends, hugging and kissing each other before they leave to go anywhere, complimenting each others' successes, forgiving quickly and completely. But when we mess up and forget to use our "power", its absence is keenly and immediately felt.

Eden has been pretty emotional since Hope arrived, crying over little things that would never have bothered her before, not wanting to leave me to go to preschool, stuff like that. I have been trying extra hard to praise her for every good thing she does to help her through this adjustment. One day, after I had complimented and hugged her for the entire morning, she did something she wasn't supposed to do. I left kindness aside for just a minute to scold her and her eyes filled with tears. "But I thought I was your big helper!" She sobbed. I kicked myself and hugged her, apologizing for my snappy rebuke.

Yes, kindness is a great power. What a shame to let it go unused, even for a minute.

Friday, November 30, 2012

Giving thanks...

 photo IMG_2765_zpse5782340.jpg ...for, among all the other blessings, a husband who can make every basket he shoots, roast a delicious turkey, AND make a giant cornucopia from scratch.    photo IMG_2763_zps325e0e3a.jpg I mean...seriously? Who do you know who could whip up something like this from some hangers, canvas, raffia and hot glue?  photo IMG_2748_zpsfba1f208.jpg It was a Linkous Thanksgiving year and so much fun! Can you imagine a better kitchen to hang out in than one filled with these people?  photo IMG_2759_zps0c1a3dcf.jpg Or a family room filled with this much love?  photo IMG_2752_zpsd39893fb.jpg  photo IMG_2751_zps354000b1.jpg  photo IMG_2753_zps26e8a73e.jpg  photo IMG_2764_zps7ec37c18.jpg  photo IMG_2760_zps5a7a406e.jpg We broke out our china for the first time EVER! Yep, it has been safely stowed away in Tom and Carma's garage since we got married 15 years ago! It was really very fun to see it in action, no matter how outdated the silverware looks :)  photo IMG_2742_zps10d7dd64.jpg Also making its maiden voyage was our custom kitchen table. With our big families, we so needed something that could seat more than 6! We found an amazing couple living in Sandy who make furniture as a home business, told them the ridiculous dimensions we were looking for and how many people we wanted to accommodate, and VOILA!  8' x 5', Each end can fit 2 chairs and each side has 2 benches that can seat 2-3, making an easy place for 12+ people to gather.  Every time my dad comes to visit, he voices what we've been thinking ever since we got the beast home, "This table is the best thing you've done to this house."  photo IMG_2746_zps8e66deef.jpg Mark, Aup, Teairsa and Tennyson came to spend the weekend with Mom and Dad and so we went up there on Friday for ultimate Frisbee and other games. Unfortunately, I was feeling awful that day, so no pictures :( but a great time was had by all :).

Because of the extra family in town on both sides, we decided to have Hope's blessing that Sunday. What a fabulous day. Both sets of grandparents, lots of uncles, aunts, and cousins all there to welcome this newest angel to the family. Most of them couldn't stay for the whole block of meetings and dinner afterwards, so we didn't get pics of everyone, but we are so thankful they could be with us!  photo IMG_2781_zpsf8b5afe9.jpg  photo IMG_2772_zps3819413b.jpg  photo IMG_2773_zps4fed203b.jpg  photo IMG_2779_zps9773b162.jpg  photo IMG_2769_zpsda545e1d.jpg Yes, we are truly blessed. We give thanks every day for this life, for these 5 miracle children, a home to raise them in, our wonderful families, and our Savior who makes it all possible.

Tuesday, October 30, 2012

Hope

"9 lbs 8 oz, 20.5 inches of perfection."  That's how I described Hope to Natalie in my reply to her text message on delivery day.  It was kind of a scary delivery.  I felt so tired and shaky the whole time.  Her heart rate kept dropping.  I was so thankful Kevin had given me a blessing before it all started and I prayed throughout the whole thing that she would make it safely here, that I would make it OK, too.  Maybe it's because I'm getting older and losing that feeling of invincibility that is still hanging on in your early 30s, but each safe delivery seems more and more miraculous to me.

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We named her Hope Carma Linkous.  She is Carma for Kevin's wonderful mother.  Creative, strong, gentle, selfless, constant, thoughtful, talented, patient, humble, loving, loyal and true.  I know Hope will be blessed all her life as she follows Carma's example.
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I've loved the name Hope ever since sharing the wheel at drivers' ed with my dear friend, Misty.  On our folders, we each had a sticker with our full names--mine read "Kathryn (none) Ellis" and hers, "Misty Hope McCleod".  I thought then, and still do, that there was never a more beautiful name for a beautiful soul. 

The name Hope also holds so much meaning for us because of our experiences in getting our family started.  Anyone struggling through infertility might look at our story and find hope.  But the bottom line is that, to me, hope is the essence of the Atonement of Jesus Christ.  Only the hope that I received through him could keep me going through every step of our journey to having our first baby and it is the only thing that keeps me going now that I have had 5 in 7 years :).  It is the reason I can wake up each day and smile at the chance to make it better than the last.  It is the reason I can teach my children to love and to trust in the goodness of others when so many scary things are happening in our world.  It is the reason I can look forward to the day when I will fall at his feet and thank him for this chance to be a mother to these angels for eternity.  It is the loving message I find on every page of scripture--"Come unto me...", "Peace I leave with you...", "For God so loved the world...","Ask and ye shall receive...", "..for he loveth our souls". 

I remember my dad talking about hope when he was serving as a mission president.  Telling me how one of Satan's biggest lies is making people think there is no hope.  They've sinned too much, they've gone too far, it's too late to change.  When always and in all things, Christ is pleading for us to believe him.  To cling to the hope he offers through his atoning sacrifice.  To hold on and press forward in that hope long and hard enough to where it brings us back to him.  I love that every time I look in this baby's eyes and speak her name, I am reminded of these things.  Welcome to the world, Hope.  We can't tell you how thankful we are that you came to us. 

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Friday, October 26, 2012

Don't blink!

I find myself stopping to just enjoy where I'm at a lot lately.  Whenever I get close to having a baby, along with the excitement of meeting that new little person comes some introspection--"have I soaked up every possible second of THIS phase while I've been in it?"  With these 5 children coming in 6.5 years, the "phases" have been quick.  I barely get to having just one in diapers before the next one comes and I'm back to 2.  But that makes it even more crucial for me to do my part to be in the present and appreciate it.  Have I cherished every joyful squeal and dimpled smile and intoxicating laugh from Darren now that you can't really call him a baby anymore?  Have I listened to enough of Eden's impossibly adorable imagination ramblings and etched in my heart every expressive raised eyebrow and belly giggle so that I will never ever forget them?  Have I snuggled and held Elle's tiny, perfectly dressed pixie body close on my lap and held her delicate hand every time she'll let me?  Have I encouraged Ryn in every way possible to not grow up too quickly, even though I depend on her constantly?  Have I told Kevin how lucky I feel that he chose me, and keeps on choosing me over everything else?  Do they all know how utterly amazing they are?  Have I showed them DAILY how much I love being theirs and how much pure joy they bring to my life?  I've got 5 more days left of this 4-kids phase so I'm off to keep soaking!



Monday, October 22, 2012

Time for everything

I'm sitting in my doctors waiting room, ready for my last check-up before welcoming this new baby to our family next week. Baby number 5! Unbelievable. Literally.

It's been a busy month and a half getting everyone settled in new schools and schedules. Ryn started for two weeks at Sunrise Elementary in the SALTA program, which she adored. Everything was ultra structured and well organized (Ryn to a T). I set up a carpool with another mom so I only needed to pick up at the end of each day. Then a spot opened up at Oak Hollow Elementary in the French immersion program. After many more prayers and time at the temple, we decided to move her there. Not quite as structured as the other place, she is still loving all she is learning. It does mean that I have no one to carpool with, but so far it has worked out.

Elle is in kindergarten at Draper Elementary because its only half-day and she can ride the bus :). She is also loving the learning process. Reading is a whole new wonderful world to her.

With 4 other moms in our ward, I'm doing a joy school for Eden and her friends on Monday and Wednesday mornings. Tuesday and Thursday afternoons, she goes to a different preschool with sweet, amazing Mrs. King where Elle went last year.

So it's been a lesson in juggling. All the different pick up and drop off times, different homework and piano practicing, reading time, friends wanting to play, making dinner in time for them to get to bed early enough so they don't get sick from being so worn out...how my mother had 9, I will never know.  Except for maybe what the Spirit taught me on Sunday (and has been teaching me for a while now). 

We were talking about 3 Nephi 17 when the Savior is with the Nephites and tells them he has to leave to go visit his other sheep.  The people obviously don't want him to go and he is moved with compassion for them and stays longer to heal them and bless them and their children, one by one.  We talked about how we need to have this same compassion and serve the one as He does/did.  And I was thinking about how every night my girls want me to stay and sing a few more songs or other times when they need me or someone else needs me and my to-do list flashes through my mind.  "I really need to be doing this and this and this....I don't have time right now...." 

In Sunday School someone made the comment that time isn't the same for the Lord, so he probably wasn't "late" getting to his other sheep, even though he took that extra time for the Nephites.  For me, though, time does limit what I can do, how I can help.  "There is never enough time to do all that we would wish to do," says the wise Ghost of Christmas Present in Scrooge.  And so sometimes when that list flashes and I think time is too short, I hesitate in my path to showing compassion.  But what the Spirit taught me and reminded me of on Sunday was the miracle that happens every time I choose to follow His example:  somehow, in some way, there is always enough time for what matters most.  When I take the time to show compassion, somehow everything that HAS to be done, gets done.  I don't think my minutes and hours are lengthened.  Maybe the miracle is that showing compassion alligns my priorities with His, and so I cut out the things that are not truly important.  I have a feeling I'm going to need to remember this lesson even more in the coming months as a new sweet spirit will need so much of my time and all the love I have to give.